At what age the boy's education should fully assume the father?
This question mothers are not out of idle curiosity, I'm afraid that his son will grow too soft, feminine, dependent on the mother, or even women in General.
Sometimes mom starts to worry, why is it suddenly the boy walking behind her tail, making it difficult to do household chores, to fawn like a kitten. Ring the alarm bell, and the reasons are searched for in the child, in its development, but in any case not in themselves, their problems.
It is no secret that even the baby loves mom more, but often heard dad. Moreover, when the alternative whose tips to perform are selected for some reason daddy. And mom very often because of this upset, sometimes even offended. Maybe not worth it? With the mother of the baby constant bodily contact. He constantly feels and father watching. Therefore, he gets an honorary role to enable or disable.
It is for my father's reaction the child concludes: is it possible to crawl, can I put my fingers in the socket. Thus, he learns what role in the family perform mom and dad, what behavior is typical for men what is for women. And if one Mama focused to all family duties and roles, the baby may experience problems with his self-image: as men or as women. The child needs the participation of the father in the upbringing, otherwise can grow an inferior person, husband and father.
For the full development of every child needs both mother and father. If Your husband ogovarivaetsja that he has a baby many matters, because he earns money, ask him to share responsibilities in the care of the child. Yes, sometimes men really have no time to walk or go anywhere with my son (my daughter), but he has the weekend that he can spend with the children, giving mom a chance to relax and gain new energy for the coming week.
The material is prepared by a psychologist AU the DPO "Regional center "Family" Zaitseva L. L.
In General, the first thing you need to do, faced with the fact someone else's laziness, is to relax and not push on the pedals. Otherwise the relationship will spoil and who will remain in the same place where he stood. Better to find a compromise between their adult "must" and his children "want": not existed in the world a child who was too lazy to do what they "want" and "like". Laziness gets in the protection of their interests only if there is a risk to spend precious time life unloved lesson.
No need to hide from him that You go to the clinic for an appointment. Otherwise the kid will think that if You hadn't have told him about it, then, with him going to do something terrible. Children's imagination can paint a horrifying picture of the upcoming inspections which is better to tell the details of the baby, how and what will happen with him in the clinic. If he should get a vaccination or blood - what he may be hurt, but not for long.
If You find that have exceeded their authority in the relationship with the child, rejoice, at least the fact that it happened in a timely manner - attentive mother is always ready to admit their mistakes.
Family life, unfortunately, is not a constant source of joy, but divorce is not the solution to conflicts, frustrations, and just everyday difficulties. Think about what it was going to divorce? What has changed in your child's life for the better?
Have to make an effort and learn how to properly talk with a former spouse. At the stage when scandals and cries cannot be avoided, the child is on time to send to grandma. He will be able to return when open warfare will remain behind and parents will find the strength to conclude a truce and leave in a civilized manner.
Fear and other unpleasant emotions (anger, suffering and temper), are not clearly "bad" emotions for the child. Every emotion has a specific function and allows children and adults to navigate in the subject and the social environment. So, fear protects the individual from unnecessary risk when crossing the street or Hiking in the mountains. Fear regulates the activity, behavior, leads a person away from danger, the possibility of injury, etc. this is the "protective" function of fears. They are involved in instinctive behavior, providing self-preservation.
The family plays a primary role in shaping the personality of the growing child regardless of the will and even the consciousness of the parents. In fact, adults have already their behavior is able to program the behavior of the child in the years ahead. E. Berne on this occasion writes: "From the first months of a child's life are taught not only what to do but also what to see, hear, touch, think and feel. And besides all this, he also say whether it will be a winner or a loser and how to end his life."
Real fellowship people who deliberately not using any scientific periodization of mental development, necessarily contains his household (and justified this view of the period of human life, which is reflected in the verbal labeling of different ages, for example, child, child, child, preschool, student, teenager, young man, young man, man, Mature man, old man. To avoid confusion, we propose to follow common practice age periodization adopted at the International Symposium, Moscow in 1965.
At what age the boy's education should fully assume the father? This question mothers are not out of idle curiosity, I'm afraid that his son will grow too soft, feminine, dependent on the mother, or even women in General.
A proper education is one of the most important components of the health of the child. In addition to the physical characteristics of the child, the correct nutrition and teach hygiene skills are extremely important psychological relations in the family: parents and children influence each other.
Kindergarten maladjustment occurs more frequently than school, but it rarely pay attention to both parents and professionals, considering almost the norm morning crying before parting with his mother, constant respiratory disease, a sharp contrast between the behavior of the child in the garden and home.
"Just look at this mess!", "You slob!", "When you learn to do what you're told!", "Again you are doing everything wrong!", "How many times have you said?" Unfortunately, it is worth some time to observe the parents and the child in some crowded place, and you will hear phrases such as these. Such comments only worsen the child's self-esteem, do not teach him proper behavior, but only to report that he did something bad.
First of all, say that to praise your child needs! People involved in education and training of children, parents should keep in mind that to start any business need with a sense of success (this is true not only for children but also for adults). The feeling of success should be manifested not only at the end, but to be at the beginning of the action. Creating conditions that cause children a sense of joy, find, overcome, represents a special challenge for the professional educator.
Gender identity confesses during the life of a person in the course of absorption of individual cultural system of a society. Understanding the Constitution of its floor is formed in children by the age of 5-7 years, and later it develops and substantial saturation at the expense of their own experience. On the sexual identity of the child is influenced by several factors of family relationships.